Blog 8
Yeah, Um… NO!!!
I am a nice person, or at least I like to think that I am. Don’t get me wrong, everyone has their days when its just like hey –I don’t feel like being bothered right about now! Something happened to me the other day and so I feel I must share with my class along with anyone who happens to stumble across this blog.
I often go to the Main Library to study. Its nice to get away from my branch and I don’t have internet at home. That ish is about to change. (Can I say ish on this blog? Too late…) Well, I go downtown to study and a patron that normally uses my library walks right past me. I started not to speak, but I did –in hindsight not saying hello would have been a good idea. Well, Gary (yes I am using his name on this blog, I doubt he’ll read it) takes me saying hello as an open invitation to sit down and start a conversation. Booooo to him right?!
He starts telling me how he is new to Fort Wayne, that he likes it here, that he uses the library a lot. (Good for you Gary, I am happy that you like the library, I like it too!) Then comes the questions…
1.) Do you have any kids?
Why is this the first question men ALWAYS ask? No, I don’t have any kids. I would like to wait until I am married, but if that doesn’t happen that’s fine I still want children. I didn’ t say all of that, I just gave a simple no.
Then came his [ultra shocked] reply — “You don’t have any children?” I swear I feel like dude just hit the jackpot or something. He must have been feeling talkative, because he kept the questions coming!
2.) Do you have a boyfriend?
Nn–Yeah. Yes. Yes I do have a boy friend. He has a child. A Son. Ooh, his son is so cute and so age appropriate too!
(He probably knew I was lying because I started talking way too much. He knew it. But didn’t ask me for my number, and didn’t offer up his. Thank God, seriously. I hate having awkward moments with people I deal with on a daily basis.)
Well, he asked if I had a MySpace or Facebook page. I told him yes. (I love social networking.) He told me to look him up and add him. I said the obligatory okay, (knowing that I would not add him) and told him I needed to get back to studying. He walked off and I thought good, please leave me alone.
I never added Gary. I thought he would take the hint. I assumed he would take the hint, but you know what they say when you assume…
Gary comes to my job and tells me that I didn’t add him and I just give him a blank stare. (How dare he call me out for not adding him to my friends list on Facebook!) I say, “Oh, I’ll do it tomorrow.” He looks at me and says, “Or, you could do it now.” (I am sassy by nature, I wish that ish would have kicked in…) I look him up and he says, “Right there, there I am.” Now I have a friend on FB that I don’t want, who can look into my personal life, who can stare at my pictures, send me notes andwrite on my wall. Why me? Why?
HUH!!!
Fast forward to yesterday. All is well, I am enjoying my day and I get an email stating that my good friend Gary posted something on my wall. Yay! What a great day today is going to be!!! Yippie Skippie! (The previous statements are dripping with sarcasm.) This is what Gary said,
“hey how r u doin how is work goin I just got a new phone its a blackberry this is tha # 260 602 **** gary fill free to call me or text my mins is free at 7 pm if its ok with u if not its cool if u don’t wanna call we still friends take care sexy.”
Huh? I de-friended his tail (I really want to say another word) right away. I told him I had a boyfriend. Leave me alone. I don’t use these sites to hook up with people, I use them to stay in touch with friends and family that I have not seen in ages. He was really never a friend and he sure isn’t apart of my family. I only added him because he hoovered over my computer until I added him. I didn’t know what to say. I was pissed. I am not attracted or interested in this guy at all. Not to say that I am Nia Long, Beyonce, Angela Bassett, Tina Turner, Halle Berry or some other beautiful movie star. But I am LaDonna Chambers, and I am not interested. At. All.
I deleted him from my friends and now I am happy again. If he asks me why I’ll tell him that I like to leave my professional and personal life separate. Sorry. Well, not really.
My point is this. If I don’t add someone as a friend I am a bitch. If I do, I’m too nice or desperate. Where is the in between? There isn’t one –go figure.
